If you are getting to know a potential date or you have already met and are feeling comfortable with one another, you may be looking to spice up your sexting with some lesbian sex talk. It may be something that you have dabbled in before, or it could be completely new to you, and you want to give it a try. Perhaps it is something that is new to both of you, or maybe your date seems more experienced, and you want to make sure that you are able to flirt with her over text and enjoy a bit of lesbian sexting.
If you are just looking for flirting tips at this stage and want to keep it light and quite casual, then there are a few flirty texts that you can send to make it clear that you are into her. Of course, you want to be sure that she is into you first, and you want to gauge the situation and make sure that your texts are going to be well received. If you have her number, then just check it is OK to text. For the most part, people now choose dating site messaging apps or other messaging sites rather than using phone texting. Don’t go straight in with X-rated dirty talk, keep it light and pay her a compliment, use emoji to respond to something she says like the wink, and just gradually get to know her better and how she responds.
While mainstream apps like Facebook and What’s App are a popular choice, it is likely that you are flirting with someone you have met online. It could be that you have met them on a dating site. OneNightFriend.com gives you the ability to flirt over text and get to know someone before you meet so you can have lots of fun with lesbian flirty, progressing to naughty, lesbian sex talk if it goes that way.
It may be that you are both wondering if the other one will respond well to you, turning the heat up a notch, but one of you has to make the first move. You have two choices here. You either take the plunge and send her something suggestive that requires a response or wait until she gets a little saucy and turns up the heat. It will soon flow once one of you makes the first move. Start off with suggestive texts that will give her an indication of where things are heading and see if she responds.
When it comes to lesbian sexting, you have to make it real. You don’t want to scare her off with getting straight to the rough stuff that you save for when you really get to know someone. You want to tease her as if you are going to be teasing her with her tongue. Tell her how you would like to “caress her pert nipples with your tongue” or work your way down her body until you reach her inner thigh and work your way up until you find her wetness. It has to make her aroused, and she has to be able to imagine you doing these things. If further down the line, you start to uncover what she wants you to do to her, then you can be more imaginative.
There are bound to be things that you like, and that she likes, the key is finding out what you both like so that you can advance your lesbian sexting from the basics to something spicier. Ask her what she wants you to do to her and, in return, tell her what you would like her to do to you. This is a great introduction and build up to the real things and will help you when you do eventually meet as you will be able to play out your fantasy in real life knowing what the other one likes from the start. Be warned, by this stage, after some steamy sexting, and you are unlikely to be able to keep your hands off each other.
There are certain words that you really shouldn’t use when partaking in lesbian sexting: bum, boobs, beaver, the “f” bomb should be used sparingly, and you should steer clear of the words that your mum used to use to describe your lady bits. It really is a turn off to be using the wrong words in your messages and can kill a sex conversation dead. Ass, tits, pussy, and all of that kind of words are much safer in this instance. You don’t have to send expletives with every text to be dirty. It is more about your creative license and how you describe the things that you would like to do to her.
Be warned that once you start, you may not want to stop, and you should be aware of your (and her) surroundings before you start turning up the heat. Don’t start sexting in the office or at work and make sure you are both on your own as it is probably going to lead to some mutual masturbation. Consider each other’s body clocks too, and if she is a night owl and you leave for bed by ten, then you are going to need to be aware of each other’s routines.
Many of us have sent those drunk messages that we wish we could take back and cringe at the following morning. The trouble with drunk sexting is that we tend to get a bit braver, and the inhibitions disappear. This can lead to sending things that you aren’t really ready to send, and she is not ready to receive. Be careful not to send her drunk texts, especially if she is at home, and you are out and about – if this is the early stages and you haven’t even met yet, it could scare her off.
The key when sexting in any situation is to make sure that you are both comfortable, and that you respect the other one’s boundaries. There may be fetishes or kinky stuff that you enjoy that she is not into and vice versa. You will learn as you go, and the more you do it, the more relaxed it will feel. Be yourself and enjoy exploring this sexual side of yourself as you get to know someone better and have fun with them.